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April 2014
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hexgoddess:

I actually kind of dislike the way the phrase biphobia is often used, like it’s almost a whole different zone of oppression.

Here’s why.

The mass majority of biphobic attacks orientate themselves around the perceived illegitimacy of bisexuality (and for women, orientate themselves around a queer woman’s intensified aspect of being a sexual commodity for men to pursue and take control of).

How does that perceived illegitimacy work? As an example if you’re a bisexual woman, then any attraction you possess to anyone who is not a man (often a cisgender man but as biphobia happens in circles that accept trans people as well, this can include trans men as well) is marked as illegitimate.

What does that sound like? Homophobia.

I think that it is of the utmost importance that we recognize that an attack on the legitimacy of a bisexual person’s sexuality and existence, including attacks that pose a bisexual person as partially hetero by lesbian and gay people, is on a fundamental level, homophobic

I’m not saying dump the word biphobia. It’s useful to recognize the direct targets of this sort of shit. But it’s not useful to forget the sources of this shit and what it’s propping up.

It isn’t just an attack on bi people, it is an attack on all queer sexuality, a taking advantage of the structures of hetero power to attack, scrapegoat and isolate vulnerable members of the queer community in some sort of absurd fucking ridiculous play at greater legitimacy by dissociation.

A lesbian woman or a gay man who calls a bisexual woman or bisexual man “part hetero” or “bihet” or “a male/female (respectively) lover” is the equivalent of a truscum who calls certain trans people (mostly trans women, many nonbinary people too) not trans or truly cis as a way of gaining some level of “purity”.

The motivations may be different but the end result is the same. Wounds dealt to the entire community, ostracisation harming vulnerable community members, systems being encouraged in their function by collaborator (unwitting or not) actions.

I really feel like biphobia, as it’s used now, conceals that fact. If you are in the queer community and you try to strip away a bisexual person’s queerness using the same bullshit aspects that are likewise used to degrade the sexualities of individuals just like you (who you’ve been with, who you’re with now, if anyone, the legitimacy or existence of your sexuality to begin with, blaming the effects of compulsory heterosexuality on the individual, etc ALL THINGS THAT AFFECT EVERYONE IN THE COMMUNITY) then you are collaborating with homophobia.

It is as simple as that.

April 2014
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gailsimone:


the preeminent gail simone of our time

One’s too many and a hundred ain’t enough.

gailsimone:

the preeminent gail simone of our time

One’s too many and a hundred ain’t enough.

April 2014
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fat-grrrl-activism:

Juicy D Light: Being a Woman of Color in Fat Activism

April 2014
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hobbitballerina:

zombiesandporn:

zombiesandporn:

georgetakei:

Please. Someone make this happen. Please. http://ift.tt/1pE5oFL

can we also do this for pro-lifers? 

no, seriously. this would be awesome. like, if the contestants are able go two months living under 100% biblical laws, then the producers will give them $30,000 each. 
but if the contestants break the rules, or back out of the show, then THEY have to donate 10,000 to a marriage equality organization.
at some point somebody is going to break a rule that, by biblical law, is punishable by stoning. so the rest of the contestants have to make the choice of forfeiting the contest, or stoning the person to death. if they stay, the producers have them arrested for attempted murder.  
win/win!

Can we not?
Seriously, can we just not?
There is a whiff of antisemitism to these sorts of things — that “Biblical law” is so impossible that no-one could possibly live with it.  Nevermind that Orthodox Jews have, can, and do, on a daily basis, live within Biblical law as defined in the Hebrew Bible and refined through centuries of lived experience and rabbinical commentary.  But Christian thinkers and theologians decided in the early days of the Church that Jewish Law was impossible to keep, that it was slavery and death, and that dismissal of the Jewish tradition has sustained so much of Christian debate and Christian attitudes towards the Hebrew Bible.  It has spread into ostensibly secular culture — secular, but clearly Gentile — with assertions like these.  Because the “Old Testament” is just impossible, amirite?  I mean, who doesn’t mix their fibers?!
Just stop it.  I know it’s tempting.  I know you want those scummy homophobes who wrap themselves in their translation of the Bible and images of white Jesus to justify their sanctimonious bulllshit to realise just how much of Biblical law they’re ignoring, how hypocritical they are.  But by whipping out the old chestnut of “Biblical law is impossible, no-one can do it, it’s just too hard and too demanding,” you ignore the whole history of Jewish practice and Jewish thought on the matter, trumpeting the supersessionist ideals about Christianity even as you’re trying to show how much bullshit Christians say.
So no.  This would not be awesome.  It would be another way to show what Christians think about the Jewish traditions they’ve taken, claimed, warped, and treated as lesser, ridiculous, and impossible.  And nobody needs that.  Not the lgbtq community.  Not the Christian community.  And certainly not the Jewish community — many of whom already grapple with Biblical law and the realities of being queer.  So no.  Just stop it.

hobbitballerina:

zombiesandporn:

zombiesandporn:

georgetakei:

Please. Someone make this happen. Please. http://ift.tt/1pE5oFL

can we also do this for pro-lifers? 

no, seriously. this would be awesome. like, if the contestants are able go two months living under 100% biblical laws, then the producers will give them $30,000 each. 

but if the contestants break the rules, or back out of the show, then THEY have to donate 10,000 to a marriage equality organization.

at some point somebody is going to break a rule that, by biblical law, is punishable by stoning. so the rest of the contestants have to make the choice of forfeiting the contest, or stoning the person to death. if they stay, the producers have them arrested for attempted murder.  

win/win!

Can we not?

Seriously, can we just not?

There is a whiff of antisemitism to these sorts of things — that “Biblical law” is so impossible that no-one could possibly live with it.  Nevermind that Orthodox Jews have, can, and do, on a daily basis, live within Biblical law as defined in the Hebrew Bible and refined through centuries of lived experience and rabbinical commentary.  But Christian thinkers and theologians decided in the early days of the Church that Jewish Law was impossible to keep, that it was slavery and death, and that dismissal of the Jewish tradition has sustained so much of Christian debate and Christian attitudes towards the Hebrew Bible.  It has spread into ostensibly secular culture — secular, but clearly Gentile — with assertions like these.  Because the “Old Testament” is just impossible, amirite?  I mean, who doesn’t mix their fibers?!

Just stop it.  I know it’s tempting.  I know you want those scummy homophobes who wrap themselves in their translation of the Bible and images of white Jesus to justify their sanctimonious bulllshit to realise just how much of Biblical law they’re ignoring, how hypocritical they are.  But by whipping out the old chestnut of “Biblical law is impossible, no-one can do it, it’s just too hard and too demanding,” you ignore the whole history of Jewish practice and Jewish thought on the matter, trumpeting the supersessionist ideals about Christianity even as you’re trying to show how much bullshit Christians say.

So no.  This would not be awesome.  It would be another way to show what Christians think about the Jewish traditions they’ve taken, claimed, warped, and treated as lesser, ridiculous, and impossible.  And nobody needs that.  Not the lgbtq community.  Not the Christian community.  And certainly not the Jewish community — many of whom already grapple with Biblical law and the realities of being queer.  So no.  Just stop it.

April 2014
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Seven Things the Movies Forgot About Hermione

lurknomoar:

In the original books, Hermione was a clever, kick-ass character made highly relatable by her imperfections. The movies erased most of her flaws, making her a better ‘role model for girls’, but a far less interesting person: a typical weakly written strong woman. So here are a few things we should remember about Hermione:

1. She is an outsider. Just like Harry, she is often clueless about the unspoken rules of wizarding society, but unlike Harry she has no illustrious parentage and pretty green eyes to compensate for it. This goes beyond the blatant racism she is shown for her muggle-born status, and means that assimilation is a constant conscious struggle for her.

2. She has bad social skills. She is a good friend, but not always good company. Hermione isn’t called a know-it-all just because smart girls tend to be bullied, she is a know-it-all. She can sometimes ‘manage’ people when she tries, but when she doesn’t pay attention she is often blunt and tactless. She alternates between showing off her knowledge and assuming everybody knows what she knows, and she talks a lot about things only she is interested in. Remember how she introduces herself to Harry – it is far more awkward than cute, and she doesn’t outgrow it entirely. I know that opinionated women are often put down for opening their mouths, but Hermione is a more interesting character for having moments where she is genuinely grating and arrogant.

3. She is authoritarian. She has a worrying authoritarian streak, repeatedly choosing the rules over her friends in the first few books, such as the time when she lets Harry’s new Firebolt be confiscated. She was still unwilling to disobey an instruction in a textbook in book six, when she had already organised resistance against Umbridge and broken into the Department of Mysteries. This of course means that every time she chooses to break a rule is emphatically more awesome. When she perceives herself to be in a position of authority, she expects the same obedience from other people. She often makes decisions for people, speaks over them. Sometimes this is a positive trait, her friends often ask her to do their homework for them, and the planning she does for DA actually pays off. But she often assumes – that Harry’s broomstick is cursed, that house-elves want freedom, that Trelawney is a fraud. One of the most interesting aspects of her character development is outgrowing this to learn to break rules and actually listen to people.

4. She has a habit of obsessively focusing on things. Again, sometimes this is productive, such as when she takes off to the library for hours and comes back with a solution, but sometimes it is silly like her crush on Lockhart or harmful like the entire S.P.E.W. fiasco. Combined with her monologues, her hit-and-miss social skills and her adherence to rules, I am surprised the internet isn’t flooded with headcanons that put her somewhere on the autistic spectrum.

5. She is not pretty. I know that casting couldn’t predict Emma Watson growing up to be model-gorgeous, but I remember watching 11-year-old Hermione and already thinking she looks far too polished. It’s not that book Hermione is ugly, it’s just that she puts no effort into her looks. The point of the ball room scene is that she proves to herself that she is capable of presenting traditionally feminine and attractive if she tries really-really hard, not that she has always been beautiful without trying. Her unprettiness was actually one of the factors that made her so relatable, and while I didn’t expect the movies to actively make her ugly, they could have just at least chosen less flattering clothes and put slightly less product in her hair.

6. She has fears. She is extremely brave, but she is still human, and there are moments when she loses control. She panics when the Devil’s Snare attacks her, and Ron has to snap her out of it. She shows visible fear when faced with hippogriffs, with centaurs, with Grawp, and one time she fails to defeat a boggart. She is afraid of flying, and as a result she isn’t simply uninterested in quidditch, she actively sucks at it, but still gets onto a hippogriff, a thestral and a dragon. She is all right at Defense and duelling, but despite all her work lacks Harry’s raw talent. This doesn’t make her weak – a perfectly brave person is much less motivational than a person who is terrified but does her best.

7. She has a near-pathological fear of failure. This is partly due to her outsider status, partly her personality, but she is a nervous wreck and an overachiever. One of the first things she says is that she knows all textbooks by heart and hopes it will be enough. This isn’t mere intellectual curiosity, this is sheer fucking terror. She isn’t that smart merely because she’s gifted, but because she relentlessly overworks herself. In the third books she uses time-travel to get to all of her classes, and she spends most of the book looking half-dead with exhaustion. She is often described as frazzled or otherwise nervous, and for god’s sake, her boggart is a failed test! Again, she starts to grow out of this around book five, but it still remains a part of who she is. In the case of movie Hermione, her fear gets minimised into a generic smart-girl personality.

Hermione is awesome, but the more perfect she is the less she has to do with us, smart unpretty girls looking for someone to relate to. Or just people in general, looking for someone to relate to. Let the movies keep their superhuman super-clever Hermione who stares danger in the face but is upset that her hair looks bad from behind. I want book Hermione, a girl with flaws, a woman with issues who has to work and learn in order to overcome her inadequacies and become the good friend and great witch she is.

Yes! I definitely liked book!Hermione more than movie!Hermione. And yesssssss, autistic!Hermione!!!!!! :00000000

But as a WoC, I feels all sorts of uncomfortable when you use racism to describe what she (a white girl) went though. Perhaps, discrimination would be a better word…

April 2014
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on forgiveness and colonialism

share-biyuti:

A lot is written about how survivors do not owe their abusers forgiveness. This is true.

And. As I’ve seen both Karnythia and Blackamazon point out elsewhere, forgiveness is also a thing that is also impossed on poc by christian morality.

No one is owed forgiveness.

This is something meaningful me as I continue to deal with my past abuse and neglect.

Because… for years after cutting my mom out of my life, I”ve still felt like it would be important (for my own emotional well being not hers) to someday forgive her. This is not true. I don’t need to forgive her, even for my sake.

This aspect of colonialism irritates me because it is so pervasive. And letting go of my guilt about this (not quite there) has been fucking hard to do. And, yes, I’d rather stop feeling guilty about never forgiving my parents than trying to forgive them. This is what *I* need to achieve peace.

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glitchbunny:

  • intelligence is based on an arbitrary set of standards set by a society
  • that set of standards should be destroyed but that is very hard to do and will take time
  • so in the mean time we should definitely enforce the idea that being unintelligent is not bad
  • disabled =/= unintelligent
  • disabled =/= intelligent
  • disabled people are widely still affected by the thought that we are all unintelligent though and it’s ableist to not recognize that part of our struggle
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brintty:

I need to print this out and hand it to all my insta-“doctors”.

brintty:

I need to print this out and hand it to all my insta-“doctors”.